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You wake up. Is it already morning? Or still the crack of dawn? You grab your phone and start moseying around…
- Checking social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram). Whew, A former colleague you competed with just posted something awesome.
- Browse through your feeds. FML, another guy just announced the launch of a similar idea you have been working on.
- View WordPress. Damn. someone just wrote a similar post I have made months ago and people are raving about it.
You feel jealousy starting to swell. You feel a vein in your head throbbing, you predict a headache waiting to happen. Relatively, it seems like your surrounding is going dark… And yet, you have not even made yourself breakfast (or lunch or dinner).
And there — you are stressed.
Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand. It can be caused by both good and bad experiences. When people feel stressed by something going on around them, their bodies react by releasing chemicals into the blood. These chemicals give people more energy and strength, which can be a good thing if their stress is caused by physical danger. (mtstcil)
Can you relate to this?
Most of the time, it is the way our body responds to bad news. It is the same as how the early man reacted when a T-Rex suddenly comes in the open, declaring through thunderous roars that they are going to eat the puny early man.
There is good and bad stress (We’ll talk about the latter as it is more concerning and has to be dealt with). Bad stress is best described as worry. What do we worry about? A LOT. From work, to relationships, family. There’s a whole plethora of things that we concern ourselves about. Worry can actually drain your energy and your ability to perform well.
When you feel stressed, your body is releasing adrenaline and cortisol, as if you were actually in danger. These hormones cause intense feelings of jealousy, anger, sadness, despair. What’s even worse is — it’s hinders you from making great things, from being creative. You obsess on something you cannot undo.
What do we have to do?
This is why I always say, Drama is bad for your brain.
And while you’re at it, quit worrying about what everyone else is doing. DO YOUR OWN SHIT. Focus on helping people, focus on helping yourself.
Now how can we do that? You have to start making the change and stop tormenting yourself over your competition. Envy of your peers also won’t help you become better at what you plan to do.
- Know what your peers, fans and/or customers. Know what they want. Get yourself out there. Connect and build that network.
- Improve your skills, Be better. Learn more and do more. Continue to be relevant.
DO YOUR OWN SHIT. Consistently. That’s how you gain progress.